Of all of the things that I wish that Henry's birthmom could see about the life that Henry is having I wish that she could know what an extraordinary father she chose for him. I simply can not imagine that a better father exists anywhere (although my own dad is a close second!) To say that Henry adores his Dada would be an understatement on the grandest scale. I always imagined that DH would be a good dad, but like most things about parenthood, I really had no idea the depth of the love Henry's daddy would shower on him every day of his life. There is not a day that goes by that I don't thank my lucky stars that my beautiful boy has such an awesome dad. Happy Father's Day Honey!
Oh my what a whirlwind of celebrations we have had the last few weeks. I guess it all started with Henry's first Easter. It was a beautiful day and he loved waking up to a basket full of presents. Then we went over to Grandma & Grandpa's house for a whole new trove of presents! This was followed almost directly by Henry's 1st Birthday!!!
To say that I can't believe our boy is ONE would be an understatement. It was certainly a bittersweet occasion as we said goodbye to our little babe in arms and hello to our amazing little toddler who learns to say and do new things every day. We celebrated the occasion with not one but TWO parties for our little May flower. The first party was the day after his birthday this included family, neighbors and some close friends. Then we got to celebrate again with our playgroup with two of his other friends who were also turning one in May. That was really special since we have all been getting together weekly since September. The babies were only 4 and 5 months old then and now they have all blossomed into these amazing little people with distinct personalities. It makes me tear up to remember our first meet ups where we could all sit in a restaurant and hold our tiny little sleeping babies. Now we when we get together it is baby chaos - but in a good way! Oh and did I mention that Mother's Day was celebrated in there too!!
The following weekend we celebrated Henry's best friend Sammy's 1st birthday- another little May flower! This was also very special since these two guys have know each other since before they were born - well at least their mommy's and daddy's exchanged notes about them! And have been getting together since they were teeny. They also shared their adoption finalization day so we were so happy that we could share in this special occasion also.
As if this wasn't enough celebration for one little baby to handle, last Saturday we got on a plane and flew to Florida so Henry could meet his great-grandpa who also happens to be named Henry! This was a very special meeting and Henry made it even more special by taking his first steps while he was at his great-grandpa's! He is not what I would call "walking" yet, but he is taking a few steps here and there, although crawling is still his preferred mode of transportation! After our visit with great-grandpa we headed to Disney World for a few days. A grand time was had by all and Henry was really a trooper considering our days were crazy busy and his naps were few and far between. He was not the greatest sleeper while we were away and woke up at least once every night which was not enjoyed by his mommy and daddy. I am relieved to report however that since returning home he has gone back to sleeping his usual 7 to 7 and ironically his mommy and daddy are much more rested now that they are not on vacation anymore!
For Henry the highlights were probably riding the rides - he loved them and would be annoyed when they were over, and playing in the splash pool at the hotel. For his mommy and daddy the highlight was probably getting to see all 4 generations of men together and of course just being a family on vacation. Something we dreamed of for years and now here we are and I must say it was everything we thought it would be and more!
I know it has been a long time since I have posted anything and I will definitely try to do better - but as you can see we have been a little busy....
A year ago today I woke up like any other morning to go to work. It was a beautiful spring day, that I remember clearly. But my mood and attitude did not reflect the gorgeous weather. Our car was in the shop for the millionth time so that was making me a little grumpy, but mostly the thing that made me feel down was that we had no idea when or if we would ever have a baby. It was kind of crummy day at work. I remember sitting on the picnic table outside at work and crying to one of my dear friends about a very minor disagreement I had with another colleague. I remember her asking "what are you really upset about?" I can't really remember what I said but of course now I know I was upset because I felt like nothing was working out the way it should. My beloved school was closing and I was losing my job as a teacher. I had always felt like I was born to be a mother and my body had failed me. It felt like too much.
Then everything changed in an instant. It was one of those perfectly warm spring evenings and DH and I were sitting out on our back deck when my cell phone rang and it was our social worker saying that an amazing young woman had chosen us to be the parents of her baby. Exactly two weeks later we would be holding our beautiful baby boy for the first time, and one year later we find ourselves planning for a first birthday party to celebrate the most wonderful year of our lives.
You could argue that my life is not completely perfect. There is still uncertainty in my life as far as my career goes. Should I go back to work? Should I stay home another year, or perhaps more to the point can I even get a job to go back too? A year ago this kind of an unsettled future would have made me nuts. I would have worried and obsessed about not have a clear plan going forward. I was talking about this with my friend yesterday and she commented (in a somewhat surprised tone) that I seemed at peace with either option. I suddenly realized that this was true. My fried who I was talking too is perhaps my oldest and dearest friend. (She's my Gayle - for all of you Oprah watchers!) She knows that I have never been one to be at peace with uncertainty. But our journey to Henry has given me an inner peace and acceptance of things that I never thought I would have. I am happy NOW and that is enough for me. Whatever will be will be. I will keep my options open and know that sometimes the most unimaginably wonderful future is right around the corner.
Yesterday we took Henry in to take some valentine photos. As a result this post will mostly be a ridiculous number of photos. Henry was 100% not interested in smiling, but I still think they are pretty cute if I do say so myself!
It also happens that yesterday was Henrys 9 month birthday. Time just feels like it's whizzing by and I can't believe how big my boy is getting! He is making developmental leaps and bounds these days. He is still not quite crawling, but can get up on all fours and is able to scoot and pivot to get where he wants to go. He can now pull himself up to sitting in his crib, and I swear I think I saw him do it on the floor today but couldn't get him to do it again! He is also waving and pointing and making a whole new set of sounds in the da da da & la la la family. He continues to improve his clapping skills and will start clapping when you say pattycake, sing "if you are happy and you know it" or even if you just say "clap clap!" He is really getting into the groove of eating and has even become more tolerant of veggies.